There is making plans based on judgment, and there is making plans based on clear action. You can make plans all you want. As long as you are following the lead of your judging habit, your plans are guaranteed to fizzle. That’s because life is guaranteed to change. There’s no mystery. When you make your plans dependent on things that change, you get disappointed. Your judgments point you in one direction. Then when circumstances change, they point you in another. You’re always playing catchup, and never actually get there. Your life feels like a wild goose chase. You can try to manipulate…
In relationships, it is not the amount of time you spend with someone, but the quality of the attention you give each other.